Raising Children Without God

donnajump – January 25, 2013 4 Comments

Here is a story from a mother with two teenage boys giving a rationale for “Why I Raise My Children Without God.”

This mother lists seven reasons:

  1. God is a bad parent and role model.
  2. God is not logical.
  3. God is not fair.
  4. God does not protect the innocent.
  5. God is not present.
  6. God does not teach children to be good.
  7. God teaches narcissism.

And then she concludes in this way:

I understand why people need God. I understand why people need heaven. It is terrifying to think that we are all alone in this universe, that one day we—along with the children we love so much—will cease to exist. The idea of God and an afterlife gives many of us structure, community and hope.

I do not want religion to go away. I only want religion to be kept at home or in church where it belongs. It’s a personal effect, like a toothbrush or a pair of shoes. It’s not something to be used or worn by strangers. I want my children to be free not to believe and to know that our schools and our government will make decisions based on what is logical, just and fair—not on what they believe an imaginary God wants.

Here are a few observations:

  • For one who does not  believe in God, she certainly claims to know quite a bit about God.
  • This may well be her perception or perspective of God, but it certainly is not reflective of the God who has revealed Himself in the Bible.
  • For her, theology is really anthropology – her understanding of God is based on her understanding of humanity. (This was Ludwig Andreas Feuerbach’s [1804-1872] argument.)
  • This is the chief reason behind the initial rebellion – a desire of the chief angel to be God; it is also one of the key implications of sin – a desire to create God in our own image, which is another of the reversals of God’s divine design for His image bearers.
  • Christianity, or religion, cannot be privatized without it becoming other than what it is. It is comprehensive in that everything is included, nothing is excluded.
  • Though she desires that her children be free from religion, she does not realize that she is teaching, training and modeling for them another kind of religion. Though her religion is not Christianity, it is a religion.
  • In sum, I feel sorrow and pity for this mother and even more so for her children.

Your turn.

  1. What do you think?
  2. What additional observations would you make?



4 responses to Raising Children Without God

  1. Greg, your thoughts are right-on. Couldn’t much, but would agree with you concerning the sadness of her decision. I suppose we can pray that her teenagers, like many teenagers, will rebel against their parents. ;o) and choose their own way.

    • Randal, thank you reading and responding. You present a positive twist to the notion of “rebelling against your parents.” Thankfully, in working with children the Lord is not limited by parents!

  2. Interesting that this lady believes in God but a very bad God. She is arguing presumedly against Christianity. She has no grasp of the value or existence of truth. She does not pursue truth or seem to think it exists. If she believes it then that is how it is. She sees other believing in this bad God as understandable and valuable. Her confidence in logic and fairness without God is extremely baseless and naive. This thinking isis every where and demonstrates the age old “doing what is right in their own eyes”

    • Thank you for your response, Cordelia. Three brief thoughts. First, though sad, it is an accurate description of how many think of the Christian faith in the present day. Second, it ought to cause us to reflect on how we can and should engage as Christians with these kinds of people who have imbibed this sort of thinking. Third, it also reminds us that no amount of argumentation will convince them of the truth of Christianity. It takes the work of God to soften their hearts, to open their eyes/minds so that they can hear, see and respond to the truth of Christianity. And it is also important to remember that God uses means, so that He uses us, people, to communicate the gospel. Finally, in order to keep us humbly dependent on the Lord as we engage with these people, we must remember that the grace that they need in order to respond to gospel-truth, that is the same grace God bestowed in our lives that enabled us to believe and receive the Lord Jesus Christ.

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